Hmm.
My dad found a new partner a couple of years ago and about 7 years after divorcing from my mom. Fair enough, she is very nice and she has three super smart kids, one of them very religious. We have come to the point we call each other brothers and sisters.
Some time ago I posted a gay related video to my Facebook wall. And my new religious sister asked whether I thought people are born gay or it is caused by the environment. I didn’t feel like getting into a debate over it on my FB wall and replied that I didn’t know. Which is quite an honest answer, I really don’t?
A few days after that she wrote about that in her blog, and my sister kind of discussed it with her in the comments.. so I suggested her to watch ‘Prayers for Bobby’. I am looking forward to her comments about that.
I am mostly out to my family.. I mean my sister knows, my mom knows… one of my grandmothers knows.
I am not out to my dad, though. I am quite sure he knows as I used to visit him with my ex boyfriend and he has asked about him after that, etc, but he seems to prefer not to know for sure. I think he would be very embarrassed, he is even super embarrassed that I don’t know how to swim. I mean he told me not to tell to my new ‘sisters and brother’ because he would be embarrassed. I guess not being able to swim is nothing compared to being gay?
I would like to tell to my new sister, though. She is very religious but she seems to be quite tolerant, and I would like to help her to see that… being gay does not define one as a person, and it is, well, not important. I am a person, my sexuality does not matter.
It is quite cool that she has brought it up. I would love to discuss it with her. Maybe I will someday. I don’t see her very often, unfortunately, as we live in different countries.
Jonathan Dalcin
